Redeeming Sexuality

Virgins for life?

Thu, 03 May 2012 16:38:59 -0700

Tired of movies that are all about people having sex? Well “Virgins for Life” is about teens who have decided to wait until marriage to have sex. This is an “ironic sex comedy” that is seeking to bring the redeemed view of sexuality to film and media that this world desperately needs.

Please support the cause so that this movie can be made to inspire and encourage people who are waiting for the true love found in marriage. And spread the word - this message is important!

For more information: http://igg.me/p/82581?a=508492

And http://www.facebook.com/virginsforlife

The Squeezings of my Brain Grapes.: Why Is Sex Before Marriage Wrong?

Fri, 23 Mar 2012 18:38:48 -0700

The Squeezings of my Brain Grapes.: Why Is Sex Before Marriage Wrong?:

jedbrewer:

Anonymous asked:
I know that I’m not supposed to have sex before marraige, but I’m not sure I really understand why. The boy I’m with is christian too, and we try and follow the bible in other ways but with sex- I’m the only one to question it and often say no. His argument is always ‘we’re…

How many movies are out there about a guy in high school who is desperate to lose his virginity...

Fri, 23 Mar 2012 17:22:18 -0700

How many movies are out there about a guy in high school who is desperate to lose his virginity before he graduates?

A lot, right?

And how many movies are there about high schoolers who don’t want to lose their virginities?

None.

And the movies that do feature characters like this make them out to be socially-awkward, condemning freaks. It seems like any character who wants to wait until marriage to have sex is made out to be naive, ignorant, weird, or foolish.

Y’all, that ain’t right.

So how about a movie about high schoolers who are desperatenotto lose their virginities before they graduate? An ironic sex comedy, if you will. One that is just as hilarious as any other teen movie out there, but shows the alternate viewpoint. One that doesn’t make virgins out to be socially-awkward, naive, or stupid. A movie that’s neither cheesy nor preachy, but presents its message in a refreshing, hilarious way?

Ladies and gentlemen, I give to you -

VIRGINS FOR LIFE.

A ironic sex comedy slated to shoot this summer. Like the facebook page (facebook.com/virginsforlife) and help this movie get made!

The way that sexuality is portrayed in mass media needs to be redeemed. This film is a step towards that.

An Exploration of Sex as God Intended It

Fri, 16 Mar 2012 15:50:00 -0700

Sex is the physical manifestation of the marriage covenant. We pledge in marriage to give our lives to just one person, so in turn they are the one person we give our bodies to in the most intimate way. Just as in marriage, we promise to become with a person, never to separate from them, sex truly molds us into that one being.

To have sex outside of marriage is to bring two into one flesh without the covenant of always staying together with that person. It is an improper use of sex. Sex is supposed to intimately bring you together with who you’ve sworn to be bound to for the rest of your life. Two becomes on - both through the marriage oath and the resulting physical consummation.

Promiscuous sex and the such trivializes the meaningfulness of the act that the Lord intended it for. To take an act meant to represent unending matrimony and share in it with anyone you have not committed your life to devalues the act tremendously.

Using sex properly is about respecting God. Also, it shows how God loves us - He wants sex to be special and meaningful. He doesn’t want us hurt or to give ourselves so intimately to someone who has not fully promised their lives to ours. It’s not a rule; it runs deeper than that.

Hmm&Hum: Q&A... On What The Bible Says About Pre-Marital Sex!

Wed, 25 Jan 2012 14:19:47 -0800

Hmm&Hum: Q&A... On What The Bible Says About Pre-Marital Sex!:

leeyounger:

Anonymous asked:

I have friends who are engaged and already having sex. They are Christians, and they say there’s no verse in the Bible that says pre-marital sex is wrong, and it’s okay because they’re getting married anyway. Is that true? Does the Bible talk about it specifically?

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Redeeming My Sexuality: Identifying Sexually Through Spirituality

Tue, 13 Dec 2011 18:23:49 -0800

Redeeming My Sexuality: Identifying Sexually Through Spirituality :

Check out Anika’s amazing story about how her sexuality has been redeemed!

The Squeezings of my Brain Grapes.: What's Wrong With Freak Dancing?

Sat, 29 Oct 2011 12:26:31 -0700

The Squeezings of my Brain Grapes.: What's Wrong With Freak Dancing?:

jedbrewer:

p-h-i-l-4-1-3 asked you:
I was wondering what your thoughts were about “freak dancing” at a school dance. Some of my friends were making fun of me that I don’t do that and I didn’t have a good enough answer of why I don’t. To me, that kind of “dancing” is disrespectful, but I was wondering…

Keri's Column - Is Sex Outside of Marriage Okay, As Long As I'm Not Promiscuous?

Thu, 20 Oct 2011 15:08:38 -0700

Keri's Column - Is Sex Outside of Marriage Okay, As Long As I'm Not Promiscuous? :

“So for this post I’ve decided to discuss something a lot of my friends who don’t wait and I disagree on. For a lot of them sex before marriage is okay, as long as you aren’t sleeping with every person they meet, where as I think that having sex with anyone except your spouse is not okay…”

The Sex Series: Part 1 - Image, Gender & Sex

Thu, 13 Oct 2011 18:31:27 -0700

The Sex Series: Part 1 - Image, Gender & Sex:

A sermon by Pastor Tim Chaddick from Reality LA church. I highly recommend it for anyone who wants to dig deeper into what the Bible says about sex, how God intended sex, etc. Check it out and spread it around!

The first ever “Redeeming Sexuality” video...

Wed, 12 Oct 2011 21:15:21 -0700

The first ever “Redeeming Sexuality” video testimony. Check out Nina’s experience as she waits until marriage for sex.

An Open Letter to Entertainers

Wed, 05 Oct 2011 14:10:00 -0700

Dear Entertainer,

Now I understand that you got it. Oooh, you got it, alright. So naturally, you want to flaunt it. Why cage up your natural, God-given voluptuousness when the whole world can see, and hey, maybe you can boost album sales while you’re at it.

But entertainer - you’re better than that. Actually, no, you’re more than that. You’re more than your six pack or your breasts; your curves and your hip thrusts. You’re passionate, you’re talented, you’re determined - you don’t have to resort to bearing all to do your job.

Don’t you want to be more than just an object? Think of what led you to this point - a love for singing, dancing, performing that probably came about back when you barely knew that “l-m-n-o” were actually separate letter of the alphabet (that dang song is so misleading). But that kind of falls off to the side, doesn’t it? I mean, it’s there, but when you get on stage and let it all hang loose, people are paying less attention to your voice and more attention to … all of that.

And you become this object to be sexually desired - and I am telling you, you are more than that. You are a beautiful person, created by God - not some personified sex toy for the masses to lust after. You’re reducing yourself, your potential, and your true talent by turning yourself into this sex symbol. You’re sacrificing all your substance, and letting yourself become an object.

And do you really want that? To stand up on stage, half-naked and gyrating suggestively to awaken the dirty sexual urges of thousands of people? Presenting yourself as someone to just simply have sex with? I mean, that’s what it boils down to, whether you’re actually going to have sex with anyone or not. Suggestively rubbing your privates and swiveling your hips, leaving nothing to the imagination - you’re saying “Hey, I want you all to want to have sex with me.” That’s what it is, right? Marketing yourself sexually to all these people - people you’re not married to, people you don’t even know. You’re dehumanizing yourself. Belittling all the substance you have to offer to in turn market yourself as an object. An object that is simply meant for shallow sexual gratification.

I’m just saying - you’re better than that. You’re more than that. So keep it on, and let people see what you’ve really got. Then flaunt that.

Not that the … other parts of you aren’t special. And not that they aren’t meant to be desired by someone. But that’s so special, so intimate, so personal. Why let it be exploited by the world, for anyone to have a go with it? Why not keep that for someone special and share something else with the rest of us?

I believe your beauty and talent can really shine through without baring all. That’s all. I hope it’s something you consider.

Sincerely,

A Girl Who Want to Enjoy a Concert By Her Favorite Performer Without Feeling Like She Accidentally Went to a Strip Club

Keri's Column!

Thu, 29 Sep 2011 18:50:32 -0700

One of the members of the Redeeming Sexuality team - Keri - is starting out a segment on our Blogger, all about the perspective of practicing abstinence from someone who is now married and waited until she was married to have sex. She’ll be taking questions and such, but her first post is her background story.

You can check it out here - http://redeemsexuality.blogspot.com/ , and I hope you all will! We’re glad to have Keri onboard, who can provide another perspective, different from mine as a single woman.

"What do women want today? What do men want? I mean, deep down. What do they really want? If ‘times’..."

Thu, 29 Sep 2011 00:08:22 -0700

““What do women want today? What do men want? I mean, deep down. What do they really want? If ‘times’ have changed, have human longings changed, too? How about principles? Have Christian principles changed? I say no to the last three questions, an emphatic no. I am convinced that the human heart hungers for constancy. In forfeiting the sanctity of sex by casual, nondiscriminatory ‘making out’ and ‘sleeping around,’ we forfeit something we cannot well do without. There is dullness, monotony, sheer boredom in all of life when virginity and purity are no longer protected and prized. By trying to grab fulfillment everywhere, we find it nowhere.””

- Elisabeth Elliot, Passion and Purity (via extraordinaryinchrist)

"Fighting a Pornified Society" (RELEVANT Magazine article)

Wed, 28 Sep 2011 15:20:17 -0700

"Fighting a Pornified Society" (RELEVANT Magazine article):

An interesting article about a Christian’s role in a hyper-sexualized culture.

“I Want to Hold Your Hand” - The Beatles For those...

Tue, 27 Sep 2011 18:13:54 -0700

“I Want to Hold Your Hand” - The Beatles

For those of you who need a break from the sexually-obsessed music constantly played all around us - here are a group of guys who (for the time being at least) just want to hold your hand.

No innuendos. No euphemisms. No straight up declarations of every nasty little thing some rapper wants to do to you. And no auto-tuned pop singer talking about how she loves the “smell of it.”

Just “I want to hold your hand.” So simple. So innocent. So meaningful. That’s all I really want - to hold hands. And we’ll get to all that sex stuff once we’re married, ‘kay?

The power of this song and the fact that it’s timeless show that music doesn’t have to be so sexual to succeed. Here’s praying that the music industry can get away from its glorification of the wrong kind of sexuality and stand for something more wholesome.

"True purity is so much more than a Christian rule to endure. True purity is so much more than the..."

Tue, 27 Sep 2011 18:12:46 -0700

“True purity is so much more than a Christian rule to endure. True purity is so much more than the noble decision to wait for a future spouse. True purity is complete set-apartness for our Heavenly Prince. True purity comes only when we fall into the loving arms of our Jesus Christ, surrender ourselves fully to Him, and allow Him to tenderly shape us into His lily-white likeness.”

- Authentic Beauty by Leslie Ludy (via crystalolaguer)

The Squeezings of my Brain Grapes.: I'm A Virgin. Why Not Have Sex?

Sun, 25 Sep 2011 17:24:53 -0700

The Squeezings of my Brain Grapes.: I'm A Virgin. Why Not Have Sex?:

jedbrewer:

waistdeepthoughts asked:

Read your post “Ok. You’ve Had Sex. Now What?”. I’m 25 and a virgin. Definitely hard to keep that desire under control. Growing up in Christian family, that “don’t do it until u married” thing was stuck in my mind but lately its been harder. Like there’s in me…

I'm loving this blog. I was wondering if you had anymore Christian themed blogs to recomend?

Sat, 24 Sep 2011 19:46:17 -0700

Thanks! And yep - I do!

Some other chastity/purity-related blogs I follow on here are http://pursuingchastity.tumblr.com/ and http://matthew5-8.tumblr.com/

As far as general Christian themed blogs, I really like http://spiritualinspiration.tumblr.com/ and http://jedbrewer.tumblr.com/ - the latter is a blog ran by a guy who works in ministry and has a lot of insightful answers to questions people submit.

Hope that helps! :) And if anyone reading this has some Christian themed blogs to suggest, let me know and I’ll share those with everyone

Consummation

Sat, 24 Sep 2011 16:15:00 -0700

consummation (n.) - the point at which something is complete or finalized.

Such a powerful definition. Such a beautiful definition, too. When thinking of that in regards to sex - doesn’t it make sense that consummation would take place once a couple has been married? To “consummate” the relationship at any other time just doesn’t make sense, if we’re going by that definition. And if you consummate a relationship that ends up just falling apart - well, doesn’t that beautiful word lose its meaning?

But consummation in a marriage, when you’ve vowed to spend the rest of your life with someone - that’s when the definition reaches its full potential. And consummation becomes such a beautiful, meaningful thing.

And I know everyone doesn’t believe in sex as a means of consummation, but personally I just think it’s so beautiful and meaningful to look at sex in that way. I look forward to consummating my marriage and only my marriage. A true and beautiful way of saying, “You’re the one and you’re the only one for the rest of my life.”

I Corinthians 6:12-20

Thu, 22 Sep 2011 09:41:18 -0700

I Corinthians 6:12-20

A wealth of sexual knowledge in these several verses, let me tell ya.

The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord.
Because our bodies are members of Christ.
For we were bought with a price.

Pretty much, we owe it to God to keep ourselves pure. Think of it as paying the dues for this new, cleansed body that God has leased out to us - the body that is His, but He’s letting us use.

If you’re renting a room from somebody’s house, it’s respectful to take care of that property, right? You wouldn’t trash it and take poor care of it, because it’s not actually yours. And if you don’t care proper care of it, when it’s time to move out, the owner will more than likely fine you - there’ll be a consequence.

Same goes with our bodies and sex. Our bodies aren’t ours, so we abstain from sexual immorality. And if we don’t, then there will be some sort of consequence. Of course if you’re a believer, unmarried sex isn’t going to land you in hell - no, not at all. But every action does have some sort of consequence - it’s the law of physics there. And if we don’t treat our bodies the way we’re supposed to, we’ll eventually find out why exactly it is that God told us to flee sexual immorality.

Another point - it says it right there, that sex binds two people together. Which is why it’s such a beautiful thing when it occurs within marriage. I think that’s part of the reason why the point of having sex only within marriage is stressed - so we only become one flesh with one other (as well as the Lord). Sex is a binding act - you give a part of yourself to another and join together with them. Just like marriage is a binding act, exactly like that - giving yourself to another and joining together with them. And with both “sex” and “marriage” serving such similar purposes, it just makes sense that those two are meant to be put together.

Both sex and marriage are a huge deal. You’re not just going to marry just anyone. In most cases, it calls for much deliberation, prayer, and time. Marriage is something that joins your life together with someone else’s till death do y’all part, and because of that, it’s supposed to be nothing you take likely, nothing you treat meaninglessly and go into with many people different people.

So is sex does the same thing marriage does - joins us together with someone permanently in some way, even after the act has been done, then doesn’t that mean all those things up there apply to sex too? That it’s something we aren’t supposed to treat likely or meaningless. Something that we aren’t supposed to with just anyone or many different people. The correlation between sex and marriage is stronger than we think.

All of that, just from those 8 verses. And so much more to be found in there, as well.